I recently attended a midweek service which opened with a discussion on church leadership. The minister asked for what kinds of leadership we see within the church. Typical answers like “elder,” and “deacon” followed. Next the question was posed if there were examples of leadership that may not necessarily have formal titles. I had an idea in mind but thought it may be too “out of the box” to share. No, actually, these are loving people and I would have been perfectly safe to share. I think I chickened out – maybe having to percolate on the idea a little bit more 🙂
Happy, growing churches have relationship leaders. I have never been to a church where there is “Leader of relationships” on staff, but I have been blessed by fellowships that are rich in the relationship factor. People are encouraged to be themselves, speak freely, get involved, make mistakes, learn from them, and carry on. People are accepted to “come as they are” and then are encouraged and spurred on to good deeds to be their best for Christ. People are involved in the process of making, teaching, and training disciples, for the long haul, everyday, with love, mercy, and justice.
Sadly, too often people come to church and missing the relationship factor, move on. A woman recently shared with me that she “pledged membership” at one church, but it “got too big” so now she goes somewhere else. I am pretty sure this is not what God intended in the sharing of His good news.
Which brings me to the concept of pledging membership. Fundamentally, I don’t take issue with a public support and desire to support a specific community of His Body. But I dare not do it lightly. I want to get knee- deep in the relationship-ness of an organization first. I want to come alongside and get my hands dirty and hear how you love God even when you physically feel like crap. Not from some ‘holier than thou’ perspective, but because next time I feel like crap, I am going to take courage from your example. I want us to share our dreams and fears and victories and laughter when life doesn’t make sense, but God’s provision prevails. I want us to share how we royally screwed something up, but then felt God’s grace and was so encouraged that our hair was on fire for God. Or, I want us to feel safe enough to share that we want to hide under a rock, so convinced are we, that there is no turning back. And at the end of real, honest, this is how it is, conversation, our hearts turn Heaven-ward and we take comfort in knowing that His love is completely enough.
This is the relationship factor. When, at the end of fellowship, we are strengthened, encouraged, and invigorated to stay steadfast in the battle.